Being a mother and being a feminist are not mutually exclusive, contrary to all the “mommy wars” headlines you’ve seen. Mommys need feminism—and vice versa—and here’s why:

Women of my generation (we’re in our 30s) and younger have trouble identifying with their feminism. More to the point: they’re afraid to call themselves feminists. This is especially prevalent among mothers. There is an enormous pressure placed on women today to do that thing no one can ever do: have it all. The feminists before us gave us the power to get our educations, advance in our careers and reject, rather than recoil from, sexism. But when it comes to family—something many of us still want—women today are faced with layers of guilt. Layer one: How the heck is she going to keep up with her education or job and also take care of a baby? Layer two: If she chooses to put family first and place her career on hold, is she failing feminism?

Without question, moms are the hardest working people around. The point of this blog is to prove that feminism not only makes them stronger but is the answer to providing the tools to lead a happy, balanced life. I will write about my attempts to have one, comment on the culture that keeps pressuring me to, and promote positive mommy discourse. I welcome comments, feedback and occasional guest blogs that fit within these parameters.