She and I fight a lot and it’s mostly over misunderstandings, hurt feelings or assumptions gone un-clarified. We are different, sure, but also the same:
She works at a brick-and-mortar job full-time and brings in the primary salary for her household.
I work part-time from home as a writer, online teacher and author while caring for my son.
She has familial day care five days a week, free of charge.
I have zero child care.
Her husband shares the load of household and parental responsibilities equally, if not carrying the majority of the load.
My husband works insane hours and we treasure the very brief times we even see each other each day.
She must cram all errands and chores into weekends which could otherwise be spent going to museums and parks with her family.
I enjoy museums and parks with my son as a means to survive 24 hours with a toddler, cramming all errands and chores into the brief intervals of time when my child does not need my 100-percent attention; the same intervals during which I must do everything else.
Every mother has a different set of challenges, but none of us is better off or better than the other. We should respect each other’s schedules and demands and not assume that things are easier on the other side merely because it looks so different than our own.